BE IN CHARGE

It was exactly 4:00 a.m., when Susana was forced to wake up, still feeling sleepy because of the previous day's vigil. She sleepily ran her hand over her face to clearly see Junior, her one-year-old child, who had just started coughing quite usually. It was quite abnormal, she thought. All of a sudden, it appeared as if he could no longer breathe normally. His breathe ceased intermittently and his chest rose and fell as he breathed with difficulty. What! She thought, gazing intently at Junior's half-closed eyes. Could he have inherited asthma from his father? No! Never! She violently shook her head as if to shake off that thought immediately.

   In retrospect, she remembered vividly three months into their marriage, her husband, John-Paul, was diagnosed with asthma. It was in the same early hours if that day that he started coughing, breathing with difficulty and a wheezing sound. She couldn't imagine it would be asthma until it was confirmed by a doctor at a nearby hospital. How could I start nursing an asthmatic husband in that early stage of my marital life, she had thought then. Often time, his chest would tighten and he had experienced shortness of breath quite often. Susana had had sleepless night several times as a result of this crises. It would sometimes happen at midnight, and at other times, early in the morning. Since the, he had been on drugs and always went about with an inhaler. This had been a source of sorrow and concern to Susana.

There is nothing more better than having a parents that love their children dearly.

 
   Just then, the cough seized Junior again, returning her back to reality. It was more violent this time, attempting to squeeze the last breath out of him. Susana then started praying and sprinkling the blood of Jesus while she picked Junior up and made her way to the garage and drove off to the hospital. At the hospital's emergency unit, series of tests were run while Susana patiently waited. Then the doctor walked up to her to intimate her about the result of the tests. "Madam," the doctor said. "Yes, doctor," "Your son has been diagnosed with asthma, but he can live his normal life if well managed," he said in a soothing voice. "No," said Susana. "My son can't be asthmatic," she declared authoritatively. And she asked the doctor to discharge him immediately. Her fear had vanished! She was rather angry at the situation. Seeing her disposition, the doctor prepared the necessary documents and promptly discharged them, but made it clear to her that they were being discharged against medical advice. That meant nothing to Susana, provided it wasn't against God's advice. The doctor further explained that that was a dangerous step for her to take. But she wasn't deterred. 

   On getting home, she threw the door open, kept her child in bed and fell on her knees beside the bed. Her mind was made up to hold on to God until her child was healed. Because she was convinced the Lord would heal him. Then she started praying with all vigour and in faith. After a while, she promptly picked up her Bible, opened it and started reading: "But he was wounded for our transgression, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed" (Isaiah 53:5). The last part came alive in her spirit, "...and with his stripes we are healed." "And with his stripes, Junior is healed," she repeatedly declared. And instantly, Junior sneezed and was clam. Seeing that, she had a witness in her spirit that he had been healed. She later took him back to the hospital for a test, and he was confirmed healed.

   Like Susana, every parent needs to consciously take charge of the affairs of their children in both spiritual and physical matters, never assuming that everything happens by chance. Rescue your children before other forces and influence take over their lives.

   Now, having been familiar with the story you just read now; am going to discussed two aspect of the children's life or lifestyle you must take serious note of as a parent or as a younger teen or youth.

1. Understanding the Developmental Stages and Challenges of Children

   Children exhibit different character traits at various stages of their development. Research has shown that preteens tend to be keener to emulate their parents and are more receptive to instructions and guidance. In their adolescent age, however, they naturally want to show resistance. They become less submissive to their parents. They are inclined towards being independent of their parents. They may want to experiment with diverse lifestyles. They are influenced by different factors including the world system, peer group, school, biological transformation, demonic powers and the society at large.

   Though many parents seem almost unaware of it, a battle is raging today to win the allegiance of our children. To assume, therefore, that the devil doesn't fight against children is to shy away from reality. In fact, the devil understands that children are the hope of the future. Thus, he marshals his agents against them right from birth whenever he notices they have potentials to cause havoc in his kingdom. And if he succeeds in taking charge of the lives of children of any age, he has succeeded in capturing a whole generation. Sensitive parents like Moses's mother in the Bible days understand this fact, which was probably why she didn't allow Moses to be destroyed but devised a godly means of ensuring he was alive to fulfill his destiny. Do we still have visionary and godly parents like this in this present age? The Bible records that "when she saw him that he was a goodly child, she his him three months" (Exodus 2:2). Moses mother spends three months praying, preparing and securing her son----Moses destiny before sending him out for manifestation of God's mandate on his life. You need to understand that every child has a destiny to fulfill and as a good parent, it is your responsibility to make sure your children's destiny is not aborted. As parents, you shouldn't always take every occurrence in your children's lives to be natural. Children can be afflicted by evil forces to cut their lives short and prevent them from attaining their ultimate height in life. Be sensitive, like Susana, to understand when evil powers are responsible for certain occurrences in the lives of your children so that you can resist them.

   Children are faced with numerous negative influence from the world's system. Nowadays, the social media is flooded with unsolicited corrupting advertisements, displaying sexually appealing activities, images and pictures on TV shows, magazines and music videos. Sensitive parts of human body are being revealed, and misleading fashion are often displayed in movies, mobile phones, tablets and other similar platforms. Some children have grow aggressive and violent because of such negative influences. Even though some of these movies are stage-managed and unrealistic, children are often deceived to think that such are the realities of life, and would want to emulate such lifestyles. Thus, is the reason some teenagers now desire plastic surgery to charge body image and shape in conformity with an admired celebrity. Besides, many children are being controlled by peer pressure and the desire to fit in in school and the society at large.

   It may also surprise you to know that worry is not an exclusive emotion of adults. Children also worry, and this makes them vulnerable. What they worry about is often associated with their age and developmental stage, which is why you must be well informed about their various stages of development and accompanying peculiar challenges. Children in their preteen (9-12) and  below usually worry about how to cope with friends, their changing bodies, tests, grades, among other areas of their lives. Some are even worried about being teased, excluded and bullied. And now that the world has become a global village that they can easily access news, some preteens can be worried about threatening global events like terrorism, natural disasters, pollution and war.

2. Taking Charge at Every Stage of their Lives.

   Despite the foregoing challenges God has mandated you as a parent to be in charge as His representative. To take charge of your children's lives, you need to consider the following things:

(1.) Be available and sensitive to discover any abnormal trait and wrong notions in your children.

(2.) Ask them questions when necessary.

(3.) Teach and instill life's virtues in them.

(4.) Be an example.

(5.) Show them undivided love and attention.

(6.) Rebuke and restrain them from harmful behaviour and activities.

(7.) Establish  in God's Word.

   

   Remember to always pray for them. Prayer is an indispensable weapon in taking charge in your children's lives. Nothing that has been mentioned above can be effective enough without bending your knees in the place of prayer for your children. Learn the power of prayer and always settle every matter about your children's lives on your knees like Susana did in our opening story. Never leave anything to chance. Take God by His Word, He will answer you and your will turn out well in Jesus' name. Amen!

God bless you.